Mara Jade's Musings

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You know what else it costs to write about and talk about consent? I’m going to be super real with y’all. It has cost me the vast majority of my relationships with men. Not all at once, but eventually, over time, one by one. It was one sexist joke too many, it was one boundary-crossing-creep-defender over the line. It was the constant microaggressions or the combination of being privileged and defensive about it and unable or unwilling to do any better. Most grew weary of arguing about feminist issues, or about the fact that I wouldn’t let them just win those arguments, even though they usually had no idea what they were talking about. They couldn’t deal with the fact that I won’t allow anyone to say disparaging shit to and about me and mine. Or they won’t or can’t do better after I explain how to do better many many times and finally I have to peace out on them for my own safety. I have at present a tiny handful of guy friends. One I get into arguments with nearly every time we talk. I fear that relationship may go the way of most of my past relationships with subtly sexist men- away, that is to say. Which is really too fucking bad. Because the truth is, I don’t hate men- I hate male privilege. I really like men, shit, I love them actually, some of them. I miss having men friends, but not enough to let the mild misogyny slide. I have got to take care of me and mine. That’s where we clash, because I refuse to just smooth things over, to just let things go. They’re accustomed to deference and I’ve taught myself to drop that habit as best I can.
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Never be afraid to apologize to your child. If you lose your temper and say something in anger that wasn’t meant to be said, apologize. Children need to know that adults can admit when they are wrong.

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This is so, so important.

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i have a list of things i’m still waiting for apologies for

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reblogging because the message is important and necessary but please to not support the fckh8 organization because even tho they claim to be all about “equality for all” that apparently doesnt apply to asexuals and pansexuals 

reblogging for the above commentary 

but also, as someone pointed out on my facebook, how come only $5 of the profits made from these t-shirt are going to charity? that doesn’t add up, especially when there have been teespring campaigns which donated all of the proceeds to Ferguson organizations. 

it seems to me fckh8 is trying to profit off the appearance of being more actively anti-racist then they actually are and using Ferguson kids in the process.  

That ^ is exactly what they’re doing.

Also they’re not actually a non-profit organization or charity. They’re a for-profit T-shirt company that scored an F by the BBB. They are absolutely trying to profit off of those children.

Just leaving this link here too. Fuck FCKH8.

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